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Posted February 1, 2012 1:15 PM

Come out of hiding

Mother Earth is never in hiding. She doesn’t have a problem with us seeing her be muddy, frozen, dry, flooded, or even dead. She doesn’t judge her state of being and she definitely doesn’t take our judgments of her personally.

We could learn a thing or two from her.

For the month of February I want to invite you all to have a Meltdown. Take off your garb and the masks that you are wearing and reveal who you are on the inside. Show up and be messy if you want. Or better yet, be vulnerable.

Stop hiding.

Here is a super simple practice that you can begin to integrate into your daily life immediately to support you in having your own personal Meltdown (i.e. Transformation). It will liberate your most authentic self and help it come fully out of hiding.

Practice: Own Your Feelings
On a daily basis we often get emotionally triggered several times. Sometimes these emotional triggers are potent enough to send us spinning. If we fail to take ownership of our feelings and what they are saying about our inner beliefs and preferences we can easily fall victim to the blame-game. In the blame-game other people have power over us and our inner emotional state of being.

In the practice: Own Your Feelings you stop blaming other people for how you are feeling. Instead, you realize your emotions are the result of your personal beliefs and preferences, which vary from person to person.

For example, let’s say you have a date planned with a friend for 4pm. They arrive at 4:20pm and didn’t bother to call you to say they were running late. You are furious.

Option 1, you can go into hiding. You don’t reveal how you are really feeling, make up an excuse for them in your mind, put on a happy face, and try to numb out your anger by drinking a super-sized Frappuccino with extra whip cream. FYI, this is how many diseases begin in the physical body, it will make you feel inauthentic and unhappy, and your vital life force will be lessened.

Option 2, you can play the blame-game. In your emotionally triggered state you react impulsively and say something like, “You make me so angry! You are 20 minutes late! Don’t you have any respect for me and my time. You are an idiot! I’m outta here!” FYI, this is a great way to lose a friend and experience post-blame-game regret and guilt.

Option 3, you can own your feelings and your inner beliefs and preferences and become vulnerable through a mini-meltdown of your defensive mechanisms. This option may sound like this; “I am feeling really angry right now because I hate having to wait for people without knowing for how long. I guess being on time is something I place a lot of value on. Actually, I’m feeling hurt and disrespected, like I don’t matter.” FYI, this response (because you are not blaming your late friend for how you feel, but rather owning your own emotions, beliefs, and preferences) will allow your friend to receive you and understand better who you are and what is important to you. Most likely they will soften and become more vulnerable as a result, apologize, and take responsibility for themselves and their tardiness.

Living life authentically and fully is scary at times. We’ve been trained for eons that it is best to hide who we truly are. We fear rejection like it’s the black plague. But the truth is, the people you want around you are the people who respect, honor, and appreciate the true you.

Take a chance this February. Have a Meltdown. Come out of hiding. Become more vulnerable. Own your feelings, beliefs, and preferences. Be more authentic.

I can’t wait to see you without your mask on!
In light and love,
Amy